If you have not read about the theory of attachments, it's time to start. Identifying your style of attachment can be a change of game, expand your own consciousness and dramatically improve your relationships.
The theory of adjustments is more ingrained in the idea that the way you learned to love determines how you love now. It has everything to do with your childhood, the style of parents of your parents and the experiences you have in love so far. And now, a new study shows that its style of attachment – and its probability of being happily married for a lifetime – can be traced back even more than its childhood, all the way to its DNA.
To find this connection, researchers at the School of Public Health of Yale examined genetic variations in 178 couples. Both partners completed a survey that helped researchers investigate their safety and marital satisfaction, and also provided samples of saliva for researchers to perform a DNA test. Published in the magazine PLUS ONE, the results showed that if a partner had a specific genetic variation, they reported that they were happier. This genetic variation is known as the genotype of GG, and is located within the receptor of the oxytocin gene. If you are unfamiliar with oxytocin, it is known as the "love hormone" and the courses through our veins during several "union situations", such as just after sex or during breastfeeding.
Interestingly, they also found that people with this GG genotype have a less anxious attachment style, which means they were safer in the way they came closer to relationships. To compare, people with anxious attachment style are often described as "needy" or "superanalized" as a result of their past experiences. But this study suggests that your need to constantly validate the relationship and being close to your partner may not be all the behavior learned; You can also have a genetic component.
So what does all this mean? According to the principal author of the study and associate professor at the School of Public Health of Yale, Joan Monin, Ph.D., "This study shows that our way of feeling in our close relationships is influenced by more than just our shared experiences with our partners … time … In the marriage, people are also influenced by their own genetic predispositions and their partner. "
The good news is that reading the styles of attachments and understanding how you are influencing your behavior can help you choose a better partner, communicate more efficiently with your partner or even help you understand that it is time to move from a relationship who was always condemned due to extreme extension style differences.